Thursday, May 23, 2019

The downside of political honesty

Today I had two women from a coparents site turn me down because and only because they googled me. Previously I have lost connection with a very broody 16-year-old girl for the same reason.

My approach to dating has been to treat my political views and reputation as perfectly normal and not even mention them, since there is no issue unless they make one, but that isn’t working very well. It worked fine for the Nigerian lady to whom I donated sperm for (failed) IVF. She either didn’t know or didn’t care that I am a dissident. It also works fine for Tinder dates, who are (so far) invariably contracepted. But when it comes to reproduction, women usually dig deeper.

I am hyperpolitical, which means I prioritize politics over my personal well-being, or did long enough that it can’t be undone perhaps short of changing my name. Hyperpolitical disorder is a kind of overdeveloped altruism, idealism and honesty, afflicting the sort willing to fight for minority principles or at least not hide them. We are no more violent than others since most men can be made to fight by the majority, but hyperpoliticals are what freedom-fighters and terrorists are made of. I didn’t go down that path, which makes me too boring to attract hybristophiles, yet my break with society makes me too freaky for the rest. Or does it?

I have taken steps to reduce my hyperpoliticalism, which works on my composure but doesn’t affect search-engine hits that are out of my control. Of course, if I hadn’t expressed my MRA/male sexualist views, they would still be what they are, and who knows what unexpressed tendencies others have? With me, what you see is what you get. I am neither a hypocrite nor a coward and obviously not a psychopath since they would never express disadvantageous opinions. I don’t hide my politics or unpopular views under anonymous accounts like many do. I am a public figure and completely open about my opinions.

That is just the way it is, for better or for worse.

Saturday, May 18, 2019

Distancing myself from the asexualists

I promote an ideology that I can be proud of because it is right and good as I see it, not because it gets the most done, which would be nothing anyway. Not having to compromise is perhaps the only benefit of having no power. Compromise is only relevant when you are part of the political process, which male sexualism is not, so we might as well say what we really mean. And that includes speaking my mind about dissent within our movement, since we don't even have a political party to keep together. What follows is a response to this post by The Antifeminist which was also endorsed over at Men Factor.

I am not going to sully the male sexualism that I represent with support for something worthless and harmful like male masturbation and (more importantly, since this is how it goes really wrong) the exacerbating information technologies. Those who want to retreat into a fantasy world with no meaningful sexual interactions or procreation can do so today, like millions of men already do, and it's not political except the pornography laws you might encounter, which I do oppose, but not at the cost of not telling the truth. I want pornography to be legal on freedom-of-speech grounds (or treated like any other information), not male sexualist grounds. Pornography is actually detrimental to male sexuality, so if sexualism were the only consideration and I were extremely paternalistic and didn’t care if the cure was worse than the disease, I would want it banned, yes.

Pornography is a tool to keep men away from females, and men are tools to be suckered into using it. It thus benefits feminist ideology, regardless of what they realize or say. The only male sexualist “benefit” of porn is that it reduces the competition for real interactions with women, but that is just a selfish benefit for those men who do value sex, not a legitimate male sexualist value. I can’t stop those who want to waste their reproductive efforts on virtual garbage, but I don’t need to uphold it as a positive thing, which would be downright perverse when my ideology is called male sexualism!

In my view, pornography, masturbation and all kinds of virtual sex simply cannot be advocated for alongside sex, because they are varieties of asexuality. They are evolutionary traps, like the beer bottles that male jewel beetles mistake for females in the Australian outback, equally worthless to our true sexual values. Today this is unquestionably true, and even looking into the future and given unlimited technological progress, it is doubtful whether machines can ever be valid sexual or romantic partners, because that would require that humans too are machines, which is unknown. If physicalism is true, and our minds emerge from a physical substrate due to the way it is configured with nothing else in the mix, then I will grant you that other machines as worthy of sex and love as us can eventually be constructed, but I am not going to jump to that conclusion. I recommend this video for an alternative view (and a discussion of the jewel beetles too):


If consciousness rather than physical machinery is the ground of our beings, and like Donald Hoffman claims we are conscious agents made of a deeper reality than physical stuff, sex robots can never be worthy of being called anything other than masturbation and must forever be considered maladaptive to male sexualist goals. I don’t know the ultimate answer to whether minds can be constructed out of physical material, and I don’t need to know because no matter what the limits may be, current technology is certainly as dead as the beer bottles that jewel beetles attempt to mate with, which is to say worse than worthless.

The Antifeminist also attacks my obsession with the female sex offender charade, and I won’t back down on that either because though it has little practical impact, the philosophical mistakes are so profound. It is one thing to control and punish female sexuality via the brute force of treating women as property or some unfalsifiable religious belief, but when the authorities claim that women can “sexually abuse” boys, they have dug themselves into a blatantly false position that anyone with intellectual integrity needs to call out. “Child sexual abuse” as defined by politically correct dogma is an incoherent concept that you have to be intellectually dishonest to take seriously even without considering the difference between men and women; so imagine how insane it gets when you also deny sex differences! Well, I can’t help but imagining, observing and expounding this charade in an ongoing series of posts (and tweets before I got banned).

About youth -- yes, wouldn’t it be great if men could just keep banging teenage girls and young women their whole lives? That is a utopia to be approximated via various realistic practices rather than faked through porn and sexbots! The realistic, meaningful way for men to have some degree of access to women of peak of sexual attractiveness well into our more mature years is via polyamory, the occasional hookups, prostitution, sugar babies, the work-related benefits that feminists call “quid pro quo sexual harassment” and so on, which can be combined with generally encouraging monogamy because we also care about the incels. That is the sound male sexualist position that benefits most men, which neither involves intolerant monogamy nor sexual monopolization by alphas nor fakery through porn.

Tuesday, May 07, 2019

Further reflections on the female sex offender charade: women-as-property edition

Before the female sex offender charade which holds that women can commit sexual abuse, women were also punished for sex, but it wasn’t a charade. Some of those laws were religiously justified, but let’s cut to the chase: women were punished because sex is a female resource and women were essentially property who were not allowed to dispose of that resource as they saw fit. In the same way you (or society) would punish a slave for running away -- and this was a sensible thing to do if you accepted the premise of slavery -- women would get punished for fornication or adultery because others wanted to control that resource. Mostly men, but it extends to family and society. Women can sexually abuse all right, but they can only abuse themselves and become damaged goods in the eyes of their masters, be it husbands or fathers or the law, and therefore need to be kept in line.

One might naively assume that the feminist movement, being ostensibly concerned with women’s rights, would loathe the idea of women as property. But no, it turns out that feminists are the biggest promoters of this state of affairs. There is a way to turn women into sexual property which is so stunningly effective that it not only persists to this day, but became a core feminist tenet, making feminists the useful idiots of the patriarchy. That is to pretend that women can commit rape and sexual abuse, and voila, you get to punish women for almost exactly the same things that a women-as-property justification would lead to, and then some. What I call the female sex offender charade is now seen as a self-evident truth by feminists, so ferociously guarded that they will try to silence any dissenters, and in the case of Twitter succeeded in having me removed for disagreeing. Here is a feminist bragging that she reported me leading to my suspension:

https://twitter.com/Ingi70/status/1115002271002238978

And when someone asks what it was I said that made her report me, another feminist from that discussion replies “That masturbating is more traumatic and psychically damaging than being sexually abused or raped as a child.” That is a distortion of what I said (screenshot of actual tweets that got me banned are here), but close enough minus the sex differences. Women cannot rape or sexually abuse boys, and as I keep saying, masturbation is unhealthy to males, so in the way feminists define it, it is certainly better to be “raped” by women than to masturbate. But although it is crucial to my points that women can't sexually abuse males, and male masturbation is unhealthy, notice how she leaves out sex differences altogether from the supposed reason I got banned, in keeping with the programmatic ignorance of feminism which ensures that they will never realize the truth.

When men get punished for sex, it is likewise because sex is a female resource that men take in unentitled ways. And there is overlap with today’s prevailing justification for sex laws, which holds that sex crimes are crimes of “abuse” against a “victim,” which is actually true when abuse is reasonably defined, precisely because sex is a female resource that females are naturally very invested in managing for their own purposes. It is also possible for males to sexually abuse other males and this is rightly punished as well, but what is not possible is for females to sexually abuse males (or more accurately, sexually exploit, but I shall pass over the finer nuances here; see this post for a more detailed discussion of what women definitely can’t do).

It is now established in the justice system that women can sexually abuse and exploit in exactly the same ways as men, but this does no more describe the truth than the similar institutionalization of punishment against witchcraft centuries ago. Humans are capable of bizarre superstitions, and feminism in particular is notable for its pseudoscientific denial of human nature. The myth that boys who have sex with women are “abused” in any meaningful sense is just as wrong as other contemporary myths like the idea that sugar leads to hyperactive children or vaccines cause autism; but nonetheless, all of these myths find believers. When such myths cause real harm, as in the cases of antivaxxing and sex abuse hysteria (but not the harmless sugar myth), sensible people are morally obliged to speak up, which is what a good bit of my blog is devoted to and my Twitter was before I got banned for this very reason. I can no longer tweet, but if anyone is interested my complete archive can be downloaded here.

The female sex offender charade is so mind-boggling because it violates both the laws of physics and common sense, which is worse than those other myths. It occupies the same status as both the treatment of women as property and the persecution of witchcraft, except worse because it singles out the nicest women. Female-perpetrated sexual abuse is just as contrary to the laws of physics as witches flying around on broomsticks, once you understand that the laws of physics (given the first cell of life, whose formation cannot yet be explained) lead to natural selection, which when you have two sexes like ours entails unequal minimum parental investment which ensures that sex is a female resource, which means women cannot sexually abuse males, at least not anywhere near equally.

Yet here we are, living under a justice system that pretends the sexes are equally able to sexually abuse, and the most surreal part is that opposition is virtually nonexistent except my own voice, which is also at risk of censorship every time I say something. Furthermore, it is ironically feminists who got us into this mess, while male sexualists are the only ones talking sense. The rest of the men's movement are also content with letting feminists persecute other women for victimless sex since it plays into controlling female sexuality against the fear that their wives will cheat on them with students and other less powerful but nonetheless somewhat threatening males, which is to say the women-as-property paradigm that is the ultimate explanation for punishing female sexuality.

It is not intuitive that vaccines can’t cause autism or sugar can’t make kids hyperactive, but it is elementary to any idiot that women can’t rape or sexually abuse. As with witchcraft, people need high priests to interpret reality for them in such a distorted way, using supposed esoteric knowledge that the obsequious oversocialized dimwits simply accept. The high priestesses today go by titles like psychologist and therapist (or as one of the women who got me banned from twitter comically styled herself, an “expert in child sexual assault”), and they perform exactly the same function as whoever decided that women could be witches that needed to be burned. While there is only so much of their drivel I can stomach, I have seen their “research” and know enough to know that the high priests are full of shit, and it is my moral duty to do what I can to make people stop trusting them regardless of the risk to my freedom of speech.

In the previous comment thread, Tom Grauer said I shouldn't be surprised by the feminists' desperate insistence that women can sexually abuse because
The issue of female sex offenders is a distilled case of a "power imbalance" -- and *nothing but that* -- being considered to be victimizing in and of itself, regardless of other factors and circumstances. Indeed, you can notice that the more out-of-touch various Feminist positions are, the more enthusiastically they support them, because their craziest ideas are simply regular Feminist doctrine taken to its most logical conclusion and most abstract manifestation. To Feminists, actual people don't matter; ideas matter, and the idea they have of "power imbalances" must be preserved lest the entire ideology loses its foothold.
And he has a point, but I am not giving up yet. I am hoping that perhaps the realization that they are treating women as property, or have merely replaced the scarlet letter treatment of the Puritans with an upgraded feminist version, or are indulging the ramblings of a mad witch doctor, will make them come to their senses. And if not, I think there might be a few more angles of attack worth exploring, because the absurdity of feminists or anyone supporting the female sex offender charade is inexhaustible to me.

Wednesday, May 01, 2019

Rebutting the more sophisticated arguments against nofap

There is a new website called realyourbrainonporn.com which claims to tell the truth about porn and masturbation. It is really pretentious, made by self-styled experts who according to their press release include
the principle investigator for the first research-based porn literacy curriculum for youth, the first person to coin the expression "sex positive", the first neuroscience lab to test the addiction model of pornography, and the lab that demonstrated porn did not impact partner satisfaction in the largest pre-registered, failure-to-replicate in the field of human sexuality. Experts' background includes terminal degrees in addictions, communications and media, sociology, psychology, neuroscience, and physiology, among others.
I am not impressed, however. I maintain that male masturbation and pornography-watching are evils that we should oppose on an ideological basis as male sexualists. And I mean weakly oppose, at the level of recommendations rather than legislation, but oppose nonetheless. It is male masturbation that is bad and maladaptive to our values, and porn is bad insofar as it exacerbates male masturbation.

When we look at what these best “experts” on the other side have to offer, weak minds might easily be persuaded that I am wrong. Here is their research:
Which includes conclusions like these:

“Viewing sexual stimuli [is] associated with greater sexual responsiveness, not erectile dysfunction.”

“No empirical studies exist that demonstrated a link between pornography consumption and sexual problems.”

“There is no evidence of [porn] consumption being either adaptive or maladaptive when it comes to relationship satisfaction, closeness, and loneliness.”

I am not going to answer these studies on the methodological or data level right now, because that is not necessary for my position. I am sure the studies are not as convincing as they sound in these summaries (yourbrainonporn has good info to the contrary), but even if they reflected the truth, they miss a sufficient reason to shun porn and masturbation, namely the opportunity cost. You should compare yourself to nothing but your own sexual performance potential. If the men with the strongest libidos watch the most porn, they would also have even more and earlier sex without. And if relationship satisfaction is reported to be the same in porn users, they would surely have more relationships and other sexual encounters to be even more satisfied with if they never masturbated or looked at porn.

So all of these men who are ostensibly unscathed by porn still suffer an opportunity cost! They could have had better sex lives without, even if there are no demonstrable clinical issues, because life is so much more than avoiding clinical diagnoses.

There is no meaningful control group, except us nofappers that these “experts” dismiss as anecdotes. We can look to the past when men had more sex, but they dismiss that as well. Also, effective pharmaceutical remedies for impotence appeared at the same time as Internet porn, so those pills may mask some of the problem, which is also ignored. And finally I think these studies are flat-out wrong, fraudulent and biased in important ways, but again, that is not essential to the argument I am making here.

The reason why male masturbation is seen by the establishment as harmless and even desirable, and why hateful laws against real sex are also seen as nothing to be resisted by men, is one and the same: a devaluing of male sexuality. It can take the form of feminism, but also it manifests as a general apathy in men about both sexual politics and the personal opportunity cost of wasting your sexuality on asexual practices like masturbation.

Keep in mind that the same researchers who proclaim that masturbation is harmless also think the current sex laws are harmless to men, or at least justified in the interests of women (and probably an asinine belief in female sex offenders as well). Why would a self-respecting male sexualist listen to them? The issue is not whether porn use fits some official “addiction” model or leads to other diagnosable conditions. I happen to think it can lead to clinical impotence and always leads to less sexual enjoyment, but that is beside the point. We can all agree that if we never masturbated or watched porn, we would certainly be more sexually driven and probably able to boast more experiences. It is not far-fetched at all, even if all the porn-promoting research is factually correct, that a nofapping man can double the number of women he sleeps with in his lifetime, say from 10 to 20 on average, and that makes nofap profoundly valuable.

Male sexualism is the bridge between our instinctive sex drives and ideology, because the male sex drive is damn near ideologically blind. History shows almost zero correlation between the two, unless you count brute force. Our sex drive is great for the immediate decision-making to fuck the women in our proximity, but it sucks for politics (and it sucks even for the former with porn in the mix). Evolutionarily speaking, what matters strategically is to rise in hierarchies, so that’s what men will focus on when not engaged in immediate sexual pursuit (or maladaptive misdirection fostered by porn, as the case may be). Even if those hierarchies are wedded to antisex such as feminism or the Catholic clergy or researchers who study porn in order to extol its politically correct virtues, the men who rise to prominence will have the most sexual opportunities and therefore do the right thing in some sense. But we can do better! Since men have no evolved tendency to champion the philosophy of sex-positivity, we need to take it upon ourselves to devise such an ideology if we want one. Male sexualism, humble though it may be, is the greatest attempt in history to do just this. Men need to learn to think with their dicks, and I am proud to lead a movement that teaches them how to do this.

Other value systems have also incidentally opposed masturbation, but we do it for the right reasons, because we explicitly think with our dicks and thus recognize and fear the opportunity cost of everything that gets in the way. The other nofappers, who only quit porn because it made them impotent, are also by and large accidental sexualists who care nothing about the sex laws. Only male sexualism brings it all together into one wholesome ideology and way of life.

Comments are open (but moderated), so if anyone wants to discuss nofap in more detail or other male sexualist issues, feel free.